The normativity of Ivy love: The things we are not told, but taught
As Patton writes, “For most of you, the cornerstone of your future and happiness will be inextricably linked to the man you marry, and you will never again have this concentration of men who are worthy of you.” For most of you. This seemingly benign qualifier is the piece’s most damning phrase, revealing a worldview that excludes not only some individuals but any alternatives to what people like Patton consider happy partnerships and happy futures.

