LETTER: So Much More

While I commend Chris Lehmann for showing concern for the future of the family unit, I think that his column "Marriage in the '90s" (DP 4/7/92) would be more appropriately entitled "Family Responsibilities: Household Chores and Parenting." Lehmann misses the forest for the trees when he fails to focus on the most important aspects of marriage. After all, a failing marriage is not saved by spouses agreeing on who will do the dishes, or who will drop off the children at school. As my wedding day draws nearer and nearer, I realize that my marriage will encompass so much more than the limited issues that Lehmann addresses. Nowhere in the column does Lehmann mention love, understanding, supportiveness or mutual respect. Yet, these are the things which are absolutely necessary if a couple wants to acheive a successful marriage. After I walk down the aisle this summer, I plan to follow my own advice in the way I handle my marital relationship; I suggest that anyone who doesn't enjoy the thought of becoming a divorce statistic do the same. STEPHANIE GRAYSON College '92